During any relationship, especially early on, figuring out if things are going to work out long-term can be a fun, albeit frustrating guessing game. Understanding the chemistry that exists between two people can be as difficult as understanding actual scientific chemistry.
Fortunately, with a little intuition and some lessons from the Toronto escorts, you’ll be well on your way to understanding the chemistry in any relationship.
It Just Happens
When you mix two atoms of hydrogen and one atom of oxygen together, you get H2O, otherwise known as water. You don’t have to “do” anything extra to convince the hydrogren and oxygen atoms to become water, they do it simply because that’s what happens naturally. In a relationship, chemistry will happen on its own.
If you think the relationship might be going well but it’s only because it’s being forced to be that way, chances are it’s not true chemistry. True chemistry will be more effortless- not that it doesn’t take work, but that it will build as a result of you and your partner spending more and more time together.
You Lose Track of Time
In any relationship, it’s (obviously) important to enjoy spending time with your significant other. One study says that couples spend an average of two to two-and-a-half hours together every day. Of course, your individual situation may dictate a longer or shorter time together. The important part of that time spent together is that it’s not a hassle or a burden.
If you’re constantly checking the clock to see when you can move onto something else, it’s likely there’s little to no chemistry. If, however, you check your clock, only to find out an unexpectedly large amount of time has passed, that’s a very good sign, indeed.
Others See It
Of course, it’s easy to convince others you have a healthy relationship, for a while at least. However, as time goes by, those who know you best will be able to truly tell whether or not things are working out.
If the friends and family members you trust are giving you a thumbs up, chances are there’s some definite chemistry there. The important part here is to actually listen to what they have to say, even if you don’t like what you hear.
You Find Joy
Anyone can have “warm fuzzies” from a new relationship and a good dose of puppy love. These ooey-gooey feelings are not a sure sign of chemistry, though. More obvious signs take time to develop as you examine your own life in the context of the relationship.
Do you find yourself with more energy, more joy, and more contentment as a result of the relationship, or is it dragging you down and draining you? Since good chemistry requires both parties to be on the same page, it’s important to be somewhat introspective to better understand how you truly feel about the relationship and how it’s affecting you.
Friction, Not Failure
In any relationship, it’s okay to have friction from time-to-time. After all, you’re bringing together two entirely different people with two entirely different sets of life experiences. You’re probably not going to agree on every little thing, and that’s perfectly okay. To gauge your chemistry, though, it’s important to see how these times of friction are handled.
Do they result in an opportunity for good discussion and mutual understanding, or do they result in a breakdown in communication and a war of words? True chemistry in a healthy relationship will shine through in times like these as much as a bad relationship will reveal the utter lack of chemistry.
As mentioned earlier, chemistry, in science and relationships, ultimately just happens. That means you need to be true to who you are and not go changing yourself in a thousand different ways just to try and make the relationship work.
If the other person truly loves and cares for you, they will respect and admire you for the person you are, not for the person they think you ought to be.