Do you want yourself to be liked by someone special? You’re not alone. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, being liked is one of the most important needs in the lives of everyone. In simple words, it’s human nature to be liked.
But while some are liked easily by almost everyone, some struggle and think what could possibly be wrong with them. And the answer lies in their approach towards likeliness. Here, we’re going to tell you 4 ways to improve that approach. Let’s get started:
#1. The law of attraction: Like attracts like
The first simplest thing that you can do to be liked is liking others. This may sound overly simple (and even philosophical), but the reality is that if you don’t like someone it becomes clear immediately from your actions and behavior (even when you don’t want the other person to know it).
The subconscious mind is such a thing that it picks many cues every second. No matter how nicely you try to behave, if you are not interested in someone then it becomes clear immediately.
And remember, the behavior is what makes the difference here. Even if you like someone but act in a manner that shows disinterest then it your hidden interest won’t make any difference. So be friendly and let others know that you like them.
#2. Don’t be boring
There’s no such thing like a boring person – we make ourselves boring due to different reasons. Sometimes because we don’t want to be perceived as a weirdo, sometimes because we’re not feeling good and sometimes because of some other reasons.
Using nearly predictable social scripts like “What do you do?”, “Where are you from?” and refraining from sharing how we’re really feeling from inside makes us boring in conversations. We try to fit ourselves into the mold of society (especially when being public or when interacting with someone new), but fitting in actually sucks!
#3. Remember the 30-seconds rule
Impressions are formed in the minds of people very quickly. You’ve less than 30 seconds to form an impression, and your time starts the moment when you walk into a place. So look your best in the clothes that fit nicely, and have a genuine smile on your face. Remember, fit and genuine are the keywords here – their importance is paramount. Unfit clothes and a fake smile are the biggest enemies of your appearance, so don’t let them spoil your likability.
#4. DON’T want to be liked
Wait, what? Well, that’s the truth. Wanting to be liked actually ends up making you disliked. The moment you want to be liked is the moment when you stop acting like yourself. You start acting like someone else, someone who you’re not.
This makes you imperfect in many aspects – whether it’s your dressing style, your approach to relationships or your expectations from others – it hits you everywhere. Trying to be someone who you’re not is arguably the biggest mistake that you can make. Be yourself, and in order to do so figure out who you actually are. Take things easy and DON’T be overly serious about your desire to be liked.
So these were 4 quick rules of being liked. You can follow them to get someone to start liking you, and the more you implement these rules in your everyday life the better you’ll have them integrated with your personality. With these, you just might get some hot FMF fun if you are lucky enough! They’ll become a natural part of your self, and that’s when you’ll become truly likable without sacrificing your own self.