A narcissist is someone who thinks that everything is about him. The world revolves around them and they are the centre of everything, according to them. This may be a bad trait and especially difficult to handle for the person who dates them. Dating a narcissist may get on your nerve sometimes and if you’re not someone who can tolerate self-boasting too much, then it can get especially hard for you.
Narcissists lack empathy and often, it is difficult to understand what’s on their mind and where you stand with them. Since they only care about themselves, their feelings are the only thing they will act on. Your feelings may not really be considered while they take their decisions.
A narcissist can do the following 5 things at the end of a relationship:
1. Preach Their Self-Importance
When a relationship ends, a narcissist can try to convince their ex by preaching their self-importance. Since they are so convinced about their self-worth, they will try to tell you how you are never going to find anyone better. Doesn’t sound quite convincing though, right?
2. Try To Manipulate You
Narcissists are good with manipulation. They can try to control situations and others’ feelings by simply trying to brainwash them. If you leave a narcissist, chances are that they will convince you that you are at fault for the relationship’s failure. They will never realize or acknowledge their mistake and always blame you for the relationship ending. It will always be your sensitivity or insecurity, never their fault.
3. Search For A New Ego Boost
Narcissists thrive on other people boosting their ego. When you stop boosting their ego, their narcissistic supply gets off and this makes them cranky. They will go in search of someone else who will make them feel good about themselves, essentially finding a replacement.
4. Leave You Confused
When a narcissist decides to end a relationship, they may leave you questioning if you are being ignored or if they still love you. They would send mixed signals and their lack of empathy may be frustrating.
5. Try To Take You On Guilt-Trips
A narcissist will constantly try to make you feel guilty by pointing out your previous mistakes and flaws, while also pointing out how they tolerated all that. While in truth, they are the ones flawed; their failure to acknowledge that and trying to make you feel guilty could be hard to bear. Never let a narcissist belittle you and make you believe that you are not good enough.
Extreme narcissism is sometimes considered as a personality disorder and there are several ways people try to lessen this condition. Being with a narcissist can be frustrating, especially if you are not one yourself and have a low tolerance for such behavior. When a relationship ends, a narcissist walks away thinking that they are better off without you while you lost someone so good. This is their trait and this is how their mind works. It is always better to not take this to heart, not let them manipulate you in any way and remember that you are always good enough, even if they don’t see it.